first: i’ve been there and a lot of people are there right now and will continue to be and to go there too
two: why are (american?) queer people conditioned to pursue people who totally disrespect them? why do we feel that we need to win over extremely hateful to people to be loved? like, are you kidding me? why would you ever want to date that asshole? there’s nothing wrong with being “closeted,” but there’s plenty wrong with being an asshole. is that the love you deserve? the shit-eating kind? please, girl. respect yourself.